Issue 71

TOPIC: ISSUE71 - "Spending time alone makes one a better companion to others."WORDS: 508
TIME: 01:06:48 DATE: 2008-3-21 15:06:39

The speaker asserts that one person would build a better nexus with his or her companions on condition that he/she runs out of free time alone, instead of actively sharing abundant time with collaborators. However, I tend to disagree with what the arguer alleges, and I do not support the opposite viewpoint that one should actively engage in team activities when leisure time is left. In my view whether one should stay alone or eagerly undertake various public teams depends primarily on specific circumstances.

With respect to some cases when friends or relatives are indulging in their personal or private matters, it is wiser for one to keep silent and does not attempt to disturb others. As a common sense, everyone prefers to veil his or her affairs, and will be somewhat annoying or even angry when someone else continuously visits him or her. Therefore, one who neglects others' tiny change of emotion or body; others may reckon him or her as a bad companion. For instance, teachers of high schools or colleges usually assign some homework and require that students finish these easy or complex works before next class. When a classmate is thinking questions on his/her own and nearly works out difficult problems, his/her thought will interrupted if Jack, for instance, invited him/her to play games. As a result, Jack may be considered as an unfriendly guy by others. In short, one should spend time alone on condition that others are busy with their own matters.

By contrast, with respect to certain other cases when classmates or acquaintances are tackling tough situation and certain help is imperative, one will surely be a good companion provided that he or she tries best to offer the greatest effort to solve the hard situation. Any one who benefits from Tom's, for instance, support on time will of course be grateful to Tom, and Tom is a considered as a better companion than a Tom who is aloof and odd. Moreover, appropriate communication among persons will ameliorate their relationship between them; therefore one is a better guy to others if he or she actively takes part in this communication. For example, it is extensively admitted in NBA, a tournament held in America, that a team player is better accepted by coach and teammates. For instance, Michael Jordan, a player of Chicago Bulls, was aloof and refused to chat with other teammates. Other persons were disgusted towards Jordan's oddness and aloofness. Thereby Michael was even isolated in a few plays. However, Michael's coach and teammates began to pass the ball in games when Michael discarded his original idea. Consequently, Michael became a better teammate to others and achieved several greatnesses under the help of other players.

In summary, neither spending time alone nor spending time with others is surely a good choice. The special occasion decides which way we should make tools of. Generally speaking, one is supposed to take others' practical circumstance and their feelings into account before he or she keeps alone or approaches to affecting others.